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love & sex

SILENT AFFLICTION
Should she tell her friend that the man she's sleeping with has herpes?

TELEDILDONICS
It's been called the future of sex, but the ability to touch a long-distance lover with the help of a high-tech catsuit won't come to market any time soon

ASSUMING ACCENTS
Sexy American women, please to be careful: That cute foreign lothario might not be so foreign after all

PORN AGAIN
Why don't they teach this stuff in school?

PASSED FANCY
What to do when sex leaves the relationship

SNOOP DOGGY
Be careful what you look for

REBELLION, R.I.P.
Lust for life--the way it used to be

TONGUE TWISTED
What's the best way to pick up a guy in yoga class?

WELL EQUIPPED
Cheap bondage gear is not worth the risk

LOVE-INDUCED AMNESIA
Sometimes it's time to stop coming back for more

BABY IN ARMS
She encouraged her friend to have an abortion, but she had the child and got married instead. Now, the friend's husband refers to her as a "baby killer."

MAKING A COMEBACK
There's a maxim about sexual ability: Use it or lose it

SINGLE MINDED
Coupling can be so incredibly tedious it often doesn't seem worth it

EXAGGERATION SLIGHT
When she started dating him, she made up some details about her life. And then he found out about it.

FLIRTING OR FOREPLAY?
Is his wife's sister coming onto him, or what?

REMOVING THE PAIN
Interrupt the cycle of uncomfortable sex before you get stuck

HE'S NOT SINGLE, BUT HIS GIRLFRIEND IS
Is he the problem, or is she stomping on his heart?

JOY OF FLYING
When it comes to sex, there are no answers, only questions

IT'S GOING FINE; PLEASE STOP ASKING
The hardest part of being married is talking about it to others

ESCAPING THE BAD DATE
Need to end the evening right now? Here's how.

MALE G-SPOT!
It's a delightfully ass-backwards phrase

FIRED UP
Re-stoke your sexual desire

GREAT SEXPECTATIONS
Can he live up to the standards of his porn-star ex?

DOLLY WOOD
A woman writes, "How do I mount a male blow-up doll?"

LOVE FOR SALE
Is the dating game worth $2,000 a year?

UNDER THE INFLUENCE
Drugs can loosen you up sexually, but relying on them could signal underlying emotional problems

LOVE FOR SALE
A Valentine's Day chat with a male escort

PRETTY GIRLS IN THEIR UNDERWEAR
They can wear black leather bras with silver chains if they want, thank you very much

STRAIGHT MEN BEHAVING BADLY
Ten rules for het guys in gay clubs

BEST OF BOTH WORLDS?
In praise of preoperative male-to-female transsexuals

HOT LINKING
The Salon personals section hits a raw Nerve

SUPERSTAR FANTASIES
Shar Rednour's "Starf*cker" is a fun read about celebrities and sex. What else could you ask for?

ANOTHER UNSUCCESSFUL EXPEDITION INTO THE MINDS OF WOMEN
It's time to reveal our latest scientific findings

CENSOR THIS
Some obscene suggestions for Utah's new $125,000-a-year Porn Czar

RULES OF ENGAGEMENT
He's ready to get married, but can't decide whether to tell his girlfriend that he cheated on her

DOMME JONES
Let your mistress be your drug

DOWN THERE
"The Vagina Monologues" use cunning linguistics to free the flow of taboo discourse

LOOKING TO SCORE
The Super Bowl is the money shot of football

WILL SHE BLOW IT?
Her boyfriend's on the straight-and-narrow, but she likes to do a line and take a pill once in a while. Should she dump him, or the drugs?

FAKING IT
Domination's not worth doing unless you get some enjoyment out of it

OH, BABY
There are lots of reasons why new mothers often lose their sex drive for a while

TAKING A STAND
The American Psychiatric Association supports same-sex unions--and lets the "moral majority" be damned

YOU'VE GOT PORN!
Internet addiction has millions of Americans surfing for love in all the wrong places

WEIGHT OF THE WORLD
She developed early, and wants some advice on dealing with the embarrassment

TIME FOR A CHANGE
On sexual tendencies and being true to yourself

PAST THE PAIN
Women who experience discomfort during sex might ultimately discover that their bodies are amazing instruments, not fragile flowers

THREE'S COMPANY
Polygamous wives speak out in a groundbreaking new book about Utah's dirty little secret

EGGS & ORGIES
By virtue of their fallopian tubes, lesbians are expected to attend showers. But that doesn't mean they enjoy them.

SCENES FROM A PORN "STAR SEARCH"
Think the idea of women competing in a contest that involves nude dancing and simulated oral sex is erotic? Think again.

PERMANENT RECORD
There's nothing prudish or nerdy about waiting to have sex

TYPICAL KINK
Why does this transvestite want to be labeled as "normal"?

YE OLDE ABORTION POTIONS
Don't try these at home!

A SEXLESS MARRIAGE
It's time to stop ignoring the obvious

HEADS UP
It takes two to tango

DOWN & DIRTY
"The Official Guide to the Best Cat Houses in Nevada" offers a simplistic, sophomoric brothel tour

FOX IN THE CAT HOUSE
An ex-cop's Nevada brothel purchase is both backed and derided by NOW

THE END OF SODOMY
New York repeals its antiquated consensual sodomy statute

GONE IN 60 SECONDS
Who said sex was supposed to last longer?

DEAD RECKONING
If he doesn't find a long-term relationship soon, he just might kill himself

HEAD OF THE CRASS
Bradley and Claire hooked up a while ago. Now, thanks to email, the entire world knows.

THE WANKING WOUNDED
Sex and the computer generation

SIN CARE
Spice up your love life with these erotic gifts

TICKING TIME BOMB
She wants a wedding and a baby, but will she be able to convince her guy that he wants those things too?

WHIP UP A PRESENT
Get kinky for the holidays and give till it hurts

CROSSING OVER
Who said that a "real man" must be ready and willing all the time?

TRUE CONFESSION
He's a budding online sex columnist and he doesn't like porn

IMAGE ISN'T EVERYTHING
No, you probably shouldn't ask your girlfriend to drop a few pounds

RULES OF ATTRACTION
A little desire may turn into a flood of emotions

WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?
Did he sabotage the relationship? Did she? Does it really matter?

HEART'S DESIRE
Take time out and get to know yourself

SWEPT AWAY
Awakening to the pleasure of appreciation

YOUR MURDEROUS, CHEATING HEART
Ten hints to find out if your man is a con artist

GIMME, GIMME SHELTER
A woman he barely knows runs to him when she's scared of her husband. Should he keep opening the door for her?

GROUP ACTIVITY
Sex among couples doesn't have to leave them feeling guilty

MR. WRONG.COM
Online personals make dating quick, easy and fun! Until people meet, of course.

SINGLED OUT
Being contracted to love someone else is as romantic as a sandbag

WISHBONE MEMORIES
From gay diners and ruptured discs to sexual frustration and political arguments, Thanksgiving has been a holiday to remember

HOT STUFF
Sex etiquette 101

THE FIRST TIME
You had always waited months to have sex with someone, but she was just so persistent

GETTIN' SOME
The truth about sex drives and bisexual fantasies

DAZED & CONFUSED
All relationships need boundaries

SEX HELPERS
Call the Eros Clitoral Therapy Device a "vulva vacuum" and have fun cleaning house

BEDTIME BRUTE
Tell him he can slap his own butt

ELECTILE DIFFICULTIES
It's hard to write a sex column when you don't know who the president is

LONG STORY
Do you have an abnormally large member? The Large Penis Support Group is there for you.

CRAZY FOR YOU?
Men might think there's a fine line between pursuing a woman and becoming a stalker. But women say they can tell the difference.

NOT SO FRIENDLY
She started dating a friend, and then he cheated on her. Should she still be pals?

HARD BALL
What sounds like a good fantasy is often unpleasant in reality

CLOSE TO HOME
She recently began seeing a man who's been divorced for almost a year. The catch is, he's the ex-husband of her close friend.

OUTER LIMITS
Wanting a loving relationship with a submissive masochistic partner is not contradictory

ROAD STRIP
Airports and topless bars: A perfect pair

BAITED EXPECTATIONS
He caught her on his hook, but now he seems to have thrown her back to sea

PART-TIME LOVER
Doing the master-slave thing 24/7 can be exhausting

A FEW GOOD MEN
Three guys ask, What's up with the ladies these days?

ONE ON ONE
Don't blame the BDSM scene for your own lack of judgment in choosing a sexual partner

WEREWOLF PALMS?
Are there side-effects to jerking off?

PUSHING TOO HARD
Wanting someone to go against their wishes for your own sexual gratification is selfish

GOING DOWN
It's time to get up to speed on the act

X-RATED & OVERRATED
When it comes to certain sex acts, don't believe the hype

PLAYING GAMES
Too many fantasy-fulfillment sessions have left this lover feeling emotionally detached

KINSEY & THE SEXUAL REVOLUTION
Two books look back at 20th-century sex

SENSITIVE OR SENSELESS
Is his relationship optimism setting him up for a fall?

A PEEK AT KINSEY
The controversial sex-research institute publishes its first book of erotic art

LOVE DRUNK
Under the influence, life happens one six-pack at a time

AWKWARD ENCOUNTERS
Go on, give that old boyfriend a hug

KISSING FOOLS
Smacking lips at The Longest Kiss Competition

THE BLOOM IS OFF
They're married and in their twenties, but their sex life has disappeared

SATISFACTION GUARANTEED
You can't get what you truly want unless you ask for it

PURSUING PURITY
Why are men so hot for virgin brides?

TESTING, TESTING
How much do you know about your reproductive organs?

PICTURE IMPERFECT
No matter how well your relationship's going, it's hard not to freak out when you see photos of your boyfriend's ex

TOP TO BOTTOM
It is easy to go overboard on a submissive if you do not understand what they are experiencing

REALITY CHECK
Change allows people to grow and develop new interests

AND THEN THERE WAS ONE
In a culture that romanticizes couplehood at any cost, it's hard to stand alone without falling down

PURE SADISM
Explaining the sadistic mindset

GRUESOME THREESOME
He's 34, she's 56 and her daughter's 35--you do the "Springer"-type math

POWER TRIP
You can read books about mental domination, but the only way to transform that knowledge into skill is by practicing

BETA TESTING
Contrary to popular belief, being the "top guy" isn't all that

HEP JIVE
When should you tell someone you're dating that you have hepatitis?

MISTRESS, MAY I?
She may be a good dominant, just not a good dominant for you

BOTTOM LINE
People don't "get over" their fetishes

TWO-FACED LOVER
Her boyfriend's a sweetheart with her, but a total pig with his friends

ALONE STARS
Loners are the last true romantics

UP IN INCENSE
In her hippie-dippy way, she's telling you it's over, chum

LADIES' MAN
Guys, just be human--women will appreciate it

HE'S PERFECT, EXCEPT FOR...
When it comes to turning off a girl in seconds flat, it's all in the details--from little girly voices to mushroom-sized penises

MEASURE FOR MEASURE
An interested reader asks, "What's the correct way to determine the size of one's tool?"

PROFESSIONAL KINK
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness

SKANKY PANKY
She loves her fiance, but she also enjoys the porn

CHEAT SHEET
She cheated on her boyfriend with another woman, and now she wants to figure out how to keep him as a lover and her as a friend

SAFE CYCLING
The truth about bicycle seats and low blows

THE ONE?
Just when she had lost all hope in men, she met the most amazing guy...

A HAND UP
When it comes to fisting, it's sex, not the X-Games

FIVE THINGS SHE ENVIES ABOUT MEN
When it comes to making women green with jealousy, it's all about eating, peeing and getting off easy--in life and in the sack

DATES WITH DISASTER
What's the worst that could happen? How does "emergency circumcision" grab you?

CELL MATING
Online services open the door to romancing women behind bars

WHEN LOVE HURTS
It's easy to find advice in online chatrooms; finding a sex partner is another story

TEENY WEENIE
Her husband's penis is just too darn small

SICK PUPPY
Turns out, you can love a dog too much

10 COMMANDMENTS OF ONLINE DATING
A step-by-step manual through the peaks and pitfalls of Internet love, from a veteran who lived to tell the tale

MISSIONARY POSITIONS
A Mormon love guide joins the fray of sexy religious books

SHOP AROUND
If women only fall for bad men, why do all the good guys have girlfriends too?

LIBIDO BOOST
Should his wife take a testosterone cocktail?

SHEET MUSIC
Making love amounts to nothing if you're not making music

CATCH OF THE DAY
Five things that turn women on

BEYOND HOOTERS
Five things that turn men on

ELECTRO BOOGIE
Depending on the setting, electro-stimulation devices can produce anything from gentle stimulation to severe pain

HALF IS NOT ENOUGH
No matter what he does, he can't seem to win with his wife

WED AGAIN
Trophy wives, late-life loves, destination weddings--examining the many faces of second marriages

LOW BLOW
Sometimes you just have to take it like a man

SHE'S SO HORNY
He wants to get some rest, but she wants to get busy

MONOGAMY MATTERS
He's seeing someone on the sly, but she doesn't know if she should leave

HOWLING FOR VERBAL THRILLS
How can she get her boyfriend to talk more in bed?

HAVE LOVE, WILL TRAVEL
Whether by bus, train, plane or automobile, nothing quite says "I love you" like a fantastic voyage

WORST-LAID PLANS
Think you've had embarrassing sex? These tales of crusty crevices and botched name-calling give new meaning to the phrase doing the nasty

A SHIKSA AMONG JEWS
It's speed dating, bubbeleh!

GETTING UNSTUCK
He's shy to the point of paralysis. How can he kick loose and have some fun?

CROTCH SHOTS
He's obsessed with having oral sex with another guy

A FRIEND IN NEED?
She saw her friend's husband kissing another woman. Should she spill the beans?

FLYING SOLO
Is it wrong for him to prefer masturbation over sex?

BASIC TRAINING
Introducing consensual dominance and submission into a relationship can put the spark back into your sex life

SHOCK VALUE
Even old folks still like to get it on

PREGNANT PAUSES
What's a horny expecting father to do? Schedule days around exhaustion, nausea and an ever-widening girth.

EMAIL-ORDER BRIDE
What are the chances of a relationship working out between people who met on the Internet, live 1,000 miles apart, and have met only once?

ON YOUR KNEES
Surveying the state of sex among twentysomethings

THREE'S A SOAP OPERA
Is his bisexual girlfriend worth the complications?

WILD THINGS
Finding a sex toy can be fun--just don't go too far

RED LIGHT SPECIALS
Ten things you didn't know--or were afraid to ask--about sex in Amsterdam

OWNER'S MANUAL
"Men Like Us" is a gay male version of "Our Bodies, Ourselves"

PRACTICAL KNOWLEDGE
Searching for the dominant of your dreams? Then it's time to learn some new skills.

BENT ARROW
Do his homosexual dreams signal secret yearnings?

THE DIVINE PENIS
Is the baby Jesus just happy to see us?

PHILOSOPHY LESSONS
Considering other possibilities when it comes to sex is, for many, taboo. But it wasn't always that way.

BORN AGAIN
Why do so many has-been porn stars turn to right-wing Christianity?

PUMP IT UP
People will try to make a buck off of anything these days, even penis enlargement

COWARD'S KISS-OFF
It's been five months since he left her. No call, no apology, nothing.

BETTER LAID THAN NEVER
When everyone's having sex but you, it sucks... especially when you have to hear it

TRAINING WHEELS
Tips for the aspiring dominatrix

OOPS!
He had a one-night stand with his straight friend. Now what?

SAVORING THE SMOOCH
Women, especially lesbians, understand the art of kissing

THE ART OF PIROPO
Exploring the flowery statements men call to women on the streets of Latin America

LONG-TERM DOUBTS
How come his exes don't have more trouble getting over him?

CHOOSE WISELY
New positions are a bore unless you choose the ones that mean something to you

LOVE IS ONE OF THE ANSWERS
Stick your tongue in your cheek and tackle this relationship quiz

STICKY SITUATIONS
The ins & outs of summer sex

FLIRTING WITH DISASTER
He made no secret about his marriage, and they only meet to talk, but the relationship still makes her uncomfortable

TALKING DIRTY
If it feels good to you, then it probably feels good to your lover, too

CATCALLS
Just because she got jiggy with the kitty once doesn't mean she'll do it again

BY THE BOOK
Do those "speed seduction" techniques really work?

SCENTS & SENSIBILITY
Bring back the days when a man smelled like a man

MIXED MESSAGES
With more engaged women going ringless, how's a guy on the prowl supposed to figure out who's available?

O, PLEASE
Few women can make it the "usual way"

THE BIG V
She's 24 and has never had sex--help!

BEYOND THE ACT
An ex-porn performer tries to learn how to love

AHEAD OF THE PACK
What to do when you're more sexually adventurous than your lover

ARGUABLY THE BEST
When it comes to verbal sports, her boyfriend's got game

MOVIN' ON
Forget the what-ifs about a relationship that might have been

SOCIAL PROTOCOL
Relax, being a freak is normal. At least to some of us.

THE REAL SIN CITY
A Las Vegas stripper describes how the job changed her perception of the city

FIELD OF WET DREAMS
She wants to know how to set up an outdoor porn shoot with her hubby

JOY BUZZERS
"Good Vibrations: The New Complete Guide to Vibrators" is truly a feel-good read

STARTER SET
A few things to consider before kicking off your BDSM lifestyle

FIRING BLANKS
Nobody knows when the first new "male pill" will arrive, or what exactly it will be

THE SEVENTH SENSE
He sees gay people. He's got gaydar.

TRIPLE THREAT
So what if she wants another girl, she still loves you, pal

BACHELOR PARTY BARBIE?
A new "Celebration Barbie" shakes her plastic moneymaker

BEAT SURRENDER
Mistress Marisha provides integrated turnkey solutions for all your B&D needs

REMEMBERING VD
The stigma of syphilis is as old as history

GROWING PAINS
Calm down, dude, size does matter. Except when it doesn't.

SEX LIFE UNPLUGGED
She's tired of plastic satisfaction, but will her man come around?

STILL TRYING TO LET GO
This is not just another story about how love sucks. But, really, it does.

BREAKING POINT
When it's really, truly time to go, you won't have to ask

NUTS TO YOU
Citing testosterone as the primary difference between the sexes only simplifies the complexities

YOU WANT TO DO WHAT?
For some men, castration is a conscious choice

CURSE OF THE COFFEE BOYS
One woman's journey from the dismal, vanilla world of sensitive java slingers to dating real men

WONDER DRUGS
No magic grow-a-penis pills? At least there's something to keep us busy in the meantime.

HEAVY PETTING
Should he have to kiss his date after she lets the dog lick her face?

INTIMATE ACTS
Sex is not always the best way to get close to someone

TONGUE FU
Couples relearn the lost art of the kiss

FREEDOM FIGHTER
Just because kink isn't for you doesn't make the people who are into it bad

AFTER MOURNING
Readers discuss why their dads remarried soon after their mothers died

PANTY WASTE
Her man finds frilly underwear fun to wear

CHEWING THE FAT
Weighing in on a man who complained about the size of his personals connection

PALM PILOT
Masturbation's no big deal, but if you're keeping track of how many times you've done it over the years, you might have a problem

BALL & CHAIN
What makes you think your significant other doesn't think about BDSM too?

PLEASURE PRINCIPLES
A reader asks, simply, "How can I prolong my happy time?"

HOOKING UP
Making friends in the BDSM scene can be a slow process

ORGY ETIQUETTE
How does one decline an offer of sex at a love party?

UNDER A SPELL
Crushes can make you do some crazy things

THINKING KINK
Ask yourself some hard questions about what turns you on

SEX SELLING
Getting the vibe at Whatissexy.com's Erotica Expo

ODDBALLS
Yes, there are people willing to cut your testicles off

UNWELCOME GIFT
Having herpes doesn't have to be a shameful secret

VIVA LA VULVA
Inspired by "The Vagina Monologues," Wesleyan University women create The Cunt Club to raise awareness about female sexuality

AWAKENED DESIRES
One woman recounts "How I figured out I was a lesbian"

POLE POSITION
Is it possible to land a date with that stripper you've had your eye on?

BLESS YOU
Is this allergy season, or are you just happy to see me?

PRURIENT PAGE VIEWS
Stumble into these back-alley sex sites

PIERCED, BRAZEN
What to do when a piercing puts a painful end to a good time

STRIPPED DOWN
A trip to a gay strip club makes him realize that, regardless of sexual orientation, all men are pigs

RHYTHM METHOD
A good whipping is like good sex: There's a beginning, a middle, and an end

EXPERT OPINION
In which a sex columnist seeks some advice from her readers

GETTING IT BOTH WAYS
Why does his girlfriend need sex with both men and women to feel fulfilled?

TIT FOR TAT
He's hoping his nonpregnant wife can lactate

SHORT CUTS
The myth of male orgasm and other scientific bits

SEEING DOUBLE
His girlfriend's openly dating another man, and it's starting to bother him

BIG HANGUP
She wants to know why her boyfriend's exes won't stop calling

BABY, IT'S YOU
Train your slave like a toddler--more carrots, few sticks

ROUGH PATCH
His new girlfriend thinks he's a pig because he asked her to shave

PROFESSIONAL HIT
Just because sex is a prostitute's line of work doesn't mean visiting one is not cheating

WAITING PERIODS
Is a grieving widower jumping into another marriage too soon?

MOTHER MAY I?
The dominatrix takes a week off and lets her mom answer reader questions

JUST FRIENDS?
Are her boyfriend's other female relationships flirty or friendly?

YEAH, RIGHT
Why do guys promise--and then fail--to call after a hot first date?

SOME LIKE IT COLD
The joy of sex with the dead

CUTTING COMMENTARY
Uncovering the joys of an uncircumcised penis

SNAP-ON TOOLS
Not every guy wants his lady to penetrate him, but in case he does...

ASKING ISADORA
Sexologist Isadora Alman punctures taboos for readers, and admits to a few of her own

NEW OBSESSIONS
Why it's time to choose a fetish

THE ECSTASY OF AGONY
Why does this dominatrix enjoy dealing out pain? Because it's fun.

NAUGHTY BITS
Sorry ladies, if your men like a little porn, it doesn't make them weird, immoral or bad

COME ON!
Two new erotic story collections race with the pulse of modern sex fantasies

RIGHTS OF MATRIMONY
Yale historian Nancy Cott explains why legalizing same-sex marriage is no big deal

OUTING ROOMIES
What should you do if your roommate's stuck in the closet?

PUCKER UP
Pre-plan your approach to that all-important first kiss

THE NAKED CITY
Spend an evening in an all-nude gentlemen's club

NAUGHTY GIRL
She likes spanking so much, she even tries to spank herself

GOLDEN SURF
Just because it's online doesn't mean you should do it

WOMEN LIKE HER
What it's like not to need a man... or a woman

DOMINANT CHARACTERISTICS
Put in a little work to make sure your mistress is right for you

EVERYONE'S WONDERING
She's 34, attractive, and unmarried--now why won't people get off her back about it?

IN THE MOOD
Everybody wants to have sex, just not at the same time or in the same way

THREE'S COMPANY?
Dan Savage on bisexual threesomes, and more

THE OLDEST TABOO
Uncovering the healthy stats on masturbating women

NAKED TRUTHS
She's nervous about her roommate's habit of sleeping in the buff

ORAL ISSUES
She's upset that he won't kiss up to the little man in the boat

IN VINO VERITAS?
They're friends who end up kissing after a few drinks. What kind of relationship is that?

STUDYING SECRETIONS
Women should learn the difference between vaginal discharge and healthy cervical fluid

USERS MANUALS
Hot tips for sexually challenged couples